[Reading] ➭ The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism ➵ Olivia Fox Cabane – Horse-zine.co.uk

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About the Author: Olivia Fox Cabane

An expert in the fields of charisma and leadership, Olivia Fox Cabane has lectured at Stanford, Yale, Harvard, MIT and the United Nations As a frequent keynote speaker and executive coach to the leadership of Fortune 500 companies, she helps people increase their ability to influence, persuade, and inspire others.From a base of thorough behavioral science, Olivia extracts the most practical tools



10 thoughts on “The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism

  1. says:

    Loy Machedo s Book Review The Charisma Myth How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism by Olivia Fox CabaneThere are some books which you cannot put down And then there are certain books that you can read over and over again Olivia Fox Cabane s book fuses the ethos of Social Psychology, Neuro Linguistic Programming, Neuropsychology Research with Emotional Intelligence and the Zen Buddhist Philosophies to come up with The Charisma Myth After reading Robert B Cialdini s book Influence The Psychology of Persuasion and Yes 50 Scientifically Proven Ways to Be Persuasive, I would say this another landmark book in my collection In The Charisma Myth, Olivia Fox Cabane makes a compelling argument that charisma is the product of a certain mindset and behaviors which are both attainable and trainable The book proves effective with its list of quotes, anecdotes, thought provoking theories and logical explanations For a NLP Hypnosis practitioner like me, any book that involves a practice till you perfect approach is always a welcome addition So if you feel this is a book that only gives you an entertaining read, well get surprised It also has a list of to do items that you can keep working on and perfect over a period of time Oh by the way, there are a lot of processes described in this book which are nothing short of the NLP model of behaving Most of the principles stated give you a D j vu of the Principles promulgated by Richard Bandler John Grinder and yes, in time made famous by Tony Robbins To grab your attention in the beginning, Fox begins her book by stating the amazing story of Marilyn Monroe and how she incorporated Charisma that made her transform from Norma Jeane Mortenson to the Legendary Sensual Goddess of Hollywood Then she states the following tips, that makes you want to read 1 Lower the intonation of your voice at the end of your sentences2 Reduce the speed and rapidity of nodding3 Pause for two seconds before you speak The book takes the approach of focusing on your mindset, your attitude, choice of behaviors, what you think, your body language and that in turn affects and impacts how you communicate The chapters in the book are as follows Chapter 1 Charisma DemystifiedChapter 2 The Charismatic Behaviors Presence, Power and WarmthChapter 3 The Obstacles to Presence, Power and WarmthChapter 4 Overcoming the ObstaclesChapter 5 Creating Charismatic Mental StatesChapter 6 Different Charisma StatesChapter 7 Charismatic First ImpressionsChapter 8 Speaking and Listening with CharismaChapter 9 Charismatic Body LanguageChapter 10 Difficult SituationsChapter 11 Presenting with CharismaChapter 12 Charisma in CrisisChapter 13 the charismatic Life Rising to the Challenge.If I were to compile her words of wisdom, here are some of the pointers she shares.1 Presence mindful attention, patient listening, avoiding interruption2 Power appearance, clothing, occupy space, positive wording avoid don t , placebo effect3 Warmth chin down, eye contact, Duchenne smile mouth corners, eye corners , gratitude, compassion, appreciation counteract hedonic adaptation 4 Goodwill wishing the other person well5 Empathy understanding the other s experience6 Altruism7 Compassion a combination of empathy goodwill8 Forgiveness of self and others9 Self compassion self acceptance Positively correlated with emotional resilience, sense of personal responsibility, accountability, sense of connectedness, life satisfaction, positive relationships with others, self confidence, willingness to admit errors, low self pity, low depression, low anxiety, improved immune system functioning10 Metta loving kindness to self, othersOverall, I enjoyed this book thoroughly and feel there is a lot I can learn from this book but then the only question is, how much are you willing to apply and practice That is the question which I believe will make the big difference A worthwhile read and amazing investment.Overall rating 10 out of 10 Loy Machedoloymachedo.com


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    If we define an introvert as someone who loses energy from social activity and an extrovert as someoe who gains energy from them, then I have usually been an introvert, enjoying social interaction but needing considerable time to recharge afterwards Since reading this book, however, this seems to have changed I just came back from a three day meetup feeling refreshed and energetic, and the very thought of being social has started feeling much enticing I stil get momentarily drained of mental energy right after social interaction, but I recover much quicker and feel better afterwards In principle, these effects might be temporary, as the effects of many self help books tend to be But this book feels different, because rather than giving me some new technique that I might use for a while and then forget about once it was no longer exciting, it made me realize that I was already doing some of the things that it said that I should be doing, just without realizing it.Previously I had always felt bad about the fact that I wasn t very talkative, and often had difficulties coming up with things to say Naturally, being self conscious about this fact would make me nervous and panicky about what should I say in conversations, making the issue worse Probably the biggest single thing that the book did was to make me realize that the most of a person s charisma actually comes from general demeanor and body language, meaning that a person can be charismatic even if they re not very talkative.The book also made me realize that I already naturally had some of the kinds of charisma that it described, particularly the ones that it calls focus and kindness charisma In brief, focus charisma comes from giving the other person your full attention and being genuinely interested in what they have to say, whereas kindness charisma comes from having compassion and warmth towards them Both kinds of mental states then become reflected in your facial expressions, body language and voice Being interested in other people and being sympathetic to their concerns and problems are already among my natural tendencies, and the book taught me that I can actually improve my social skills by just focusing on and tapping into those two tendencies The book also discusses visionary charisma, which I don t tap into as often but which I do still access to times, and authority charisma, which goes outside most of my natural tendencies In addition, the book also gave a number of exercises and techniques which I could use to further strengthen those tendencies, or to improve my social skills in general.


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    Reader, pass by How is this book different from so many other self help books which promote good deportment Answer Not very For an author who brags throughout the book about her lofty credentials and celebrated clientele, this is pretty thin stuff and rather stingy with its insights, too Charisma is a myth in American commercial culture the world of magazines and TV pundits Charisma is a word deployed as a figure of public relations or uncritical journalism , to suggest that a person s popularity, or celebrity, is not the result of anything so mundane as an affable manner plus good publicity, but rather some ineffable quality known as charisma The Charisma Myth does not explain the myth of charisma instead it says that charisma is not innate, but can be taught It is at least half right about that.However, what the book expounds is merely that which, in a previous era, would have been called, deportment Good deportment may be a necessary condition for charisma, but it is far from sufficient.You could follow all the lessons in this book and you still wouldn t have charisma, because it attaches to a person who in addition to good deportment has already achieved some measure of fame or infamy, celebrity or notoriety, among the persons she or he meets Charisma is in the eye of the beholder, and it cannot be controlled entirely by the vigor of one s handshake, the rhythm of one s speech, or even the sincerity of one s attitude If you need to improve your meet n greet tactics, this book will do fine But if you want charisma, make sure your strategy includes the services of a good public relations firm, a savvy advance team, or best of all a journalist who will describe you as already possessing charisma.


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    Note, I listened to the audiobook vs reading the book.The book stays the point and delivers in what it promises regarding the science of personal magnetism It presents the multiple styles of chrisma, details each chrisma, and dwells into how one can use it within their own lives The book is detailed and gives you a strong understanding of the different actions a charismatic person uses Unfortunately, the detailed nature of the book is its own demise.In the book 7 habits of highly successful people , the author states that there are numerous books that are focusing on personality improvement vs character improvement To the author, personality improvement are quick fixes to problems and only create the shadow of a person with the desired personality As such, the author believes that focus should be placed deeper down on the character Personality stems from the character of the individual, and focusing on personality is not as effective as on the character This is what I accept as well The Charisma Myth focuses on the personality of the individual and never changes any part of the individual s character It has numerous quick fixes to problems, but never gives core principles to carry away It is difficult to remember the quick fixes mentioned in the book It would have been effective if the author presented core principles with quick fixes for each principle In this way, you can take away the principles with you.Having said that, I did listen to this book rather than read it This has an inherent impact on the absorption of the material It may simply be the case that reading the book will be effective and you will remember of it In either case, I still recommend this book to get the overall picture of a charismatic individual.


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    Add this book to the list of things you should learn in school but don t.A few things I recall from the book off the top of my head Easiest way to be persuasive is mirror body language To practice authority charisma when in public don t move out of the way for other people when walking The response No problem or No worries isn t a great response since it makes people think of a negative You become charismatic by giving 100% focus to another person No fidgeting with hands No cell phone No looking around 100% focus on them Body language is the one universal language It s embedded into humans to react stronger to body language than the spoken word since we ve been paying attention to it longer.


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    This is a practical book I read this book a week before facing to a stressful interview So I really had an incentive to learn I practiced the techniques on total strangers I met the street as well as on people at work The results were immediate, amazing and they turned out to be some of the most memorable interactions that I ve had with anyone, ever I apologize for using that over used american superlative, but it really is true A week later, I faced the interview, breezed through it, and felt really good about myself I m sure I left an impression on the interviewers, but than that I left a lasting impression on myself Do yourself a favor Get this book Read it, but importantly, practice the things in it Your interactions with others will change by orders of a magnitude.


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    This review is for the Audible version, not the printed version.There is some pretty good information in here, but it s limited I didn t benefit from much of it because the narrator sounds like a teenager I think that it s quite possible this book could be worth 4 or 5 stars if actually read instead of listened to, but I wouldn t know because the narrator was so off putting that I tuned her out over and over.Overall There are a lot of stories and impressive anecdotes, but the step by steps and how to s are few and far between This, I think, is of an inspire you to be better book than a teach you to be better.


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    This book was a great accompaniment to my commute I listened to it daily and treated it like a great daily vitamin It gave me valuable input to think about my own behavior As the author defines the term, charisma is an acquired set of behavior, verbal and non verbal, that display confidence and power The findings are not ground breaking, but I highly enjoyed some interesting pieces of information here and there e.g that charisma is like hypnosis, and that one must be very careful where one takes the hypnotized that there are side effects of charisma, etc.


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    So what is charisma According to Cabane, it is the trifecta of power, presence, and warmth All three can be cultivated, promoted, and used in both serene and stressful situations.Olivia Cabane does an exquisite job of breaking down charisma into a manageable and replicable form for anyone Contrary to the popular myth, technical wizardry and intellectual brilliance are not enough to win the day Instead, infusing yourself with powerful charisma can transform your personal and professional life Cabane also offers many practical and easy to implement techniques e.g destigmatizing guilt and shame dedramatizing stressful situations rewriting negative realities These techniques are powerful ways to design a charismatic mind that will automatically produce an aura of charisma The four types of charisma described in the book are a focus charisma the ability to keenly listen, understand, and empathize with people so that they feel deeply understood b visionary charisma the capability to describe a grand vision for the future and galvanize people to work toward the fruition of that vision c kindness charisma a powerful force that allows people to connect with others using loving kindness and unconditional regard d authority charisma an ability to project a highly influential power that causes people to follow and comply with your requestsAlthough it may seem like this is a book ONLY for the charismatically challenged, let me assure you, it is not Anyone interested in increasing or optimizing their personal effectiveness, leadership skills, or influence in the workplace, this book is for you As I read through it, I often wished that bosses of times past had become intimately acquainted with the book.


  10. says:

    This is a book about for the people who wants to be charismatic This book tells us how to be successful, how to make people think you are a leader, how to present yourself on a stage, How to make someone feel positive about you and what it takes to be the best person whom people see s everyday.The Art of being Charismatic starts within you There is no such thing for us to do to be just you, But to be a charismatic one, there are certain things which needs to be followed Basically, Practice This books starts of with how Marlyn stole the show by just showing her charismatic appearance out Charismatic people impact the world whether they re starting new projects, companies Charismatic Appearance Everybody likes to be noticed in a positive way Charisma gets people to like you, trust you, and want to be led by you it can determine whether you re seen as a follower or a leader, whether your ideas get adopted, and how effectively your projects are implemented Charisma is very critical and crucial join business This book is a complete guide for people who want to be charismatic and successful.


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